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08/20/2011 16:54:00

Well hasn't it been a long time since I wrote on here, sorry I know you all wait with anticipation for the next chapter. Well I've got a lot to say at the moment but the reason I haven't Blogged it is because I want these pages to be positive, as much as possible, and my thoughts need to be written down that way, and sometimes that can be hard when I'm cross with how the world is going. I'll give it a go though.

I've got two things on my mind at the moment that I want to share. The first and most important for me is the fact that Africa is in trouble with famine and the like, and children are dying because of it. I really think we all need to accept the responsibility of humanity to take care of each and every single life on this planet. There are kids dying in their parents arms because they don't have enough clean water to drink or any food to eat and it only makes item four on the news. It's 2011 for monkeys sake (monkey is my safe swear word when I'm around my daughter), this cannot still be happening. What can we do, care I think is the answer. It's very easy in this day and age with all of the images constantly being beamed at us to become apathetic and complacent about these issues. These are real, breathing, precious human lives. My daughter is precious to me and the thought that kids like her are not only not able to play and laugh like her, but are actually struggling to survive overwhelms me. We might not have lots of money at the moment but we sure as monkeys have more than them. Send whatever you can but perhaps more importantly make it known to government that this is an important issue to all of the lovely humans in this country and they, and the other mighty world leaders, need to sort it out and sort it out now.

This brings me on to my second ponder point of the moment. I think we are all being a little bit easy on the government. They have a responsibility to govern our country for the better and they simply aren't doing that. I watched Prime Ministers questions the other day and I was disgusted at the attitude and behaviour of the people 'running' our country. They where shouting, grunting and being generally very disrespectful to each other. These people behave no better most of the time than the looters who disrespected neighbourhoods recently. The politicians lie, cheat and steal and yet we are supposed to ignore or forget that when they throw some 'bigger' problem out into the press. I say we need and must demand better from these people or get rid of them, not in four or five years but right now! We are living and breathing people who can demand that the government, also only people, do better or see them off and finally bring in people who can, with good sense, run the finances of the country. Why are people like you and me who work hard and pay a massive amount of tax's due to mismanagement of finances by elected officials. If England where a business the whole of parliament would have been dismissed by now. I'm aware that the government recently changed in name but the decisions being made are just as poor. The whole world debt is a totally fictitious concept as far as I'm concerned. We could quite easily say enough is enough, we call it all quits and we help those less fortunate, like the troubles in Africa that formed my first ponderance. Who loses in that scenario, not us and not the troubled of our world, just the mega rich and corporations.

I'll stop here and apologise for the semi rant like nature of this Blog but I want people to care and know that we have a voice and we should use it.

Massive amount of love to you all from my peaceful corner of Devon

Sean

Taking your time

06/25/2011 14:15:00

Hi world out there,

It's nice to get a bit of inspiration from other people so I want to tell you about a guy who inspired me this week. He didn't just inspire me, from one post on facebook he got me to address my way of thinking rather a lot.

I've always been a guy, I'm afraid to say, that has needed pretty instant results to validate my choices and decisions. This has led me to, at times, become despondent and disillusioned when instant results didn't come. I was terrible for this when I was in my teens, always looking for the instant millionaire idea. I've tried in recent years to shift this but with things like business and body image, if its not happening quickly and I'm not seeing results by the end of the day, or by the end of a workout, then the wave of despondency and disillusionment washes over. We all have our weaknesses don't we.

On wednesday a friend of mine posted on facebook a picture of himself taken last weekend. It was of him shirtless, ooo I say!, and showed him lean and in very good shape. He also explained why he had posted this picture. It was not to show off to everyone how he was in good shape but to inspire people. He had been in pretty bad shape six years ago and had then made a choice, a determined decision, to change this about himself and then six years on he is looking like this. It's the six year part that has truly inspired me. If he could take time and do things gradually but with great results then so can I. Things very rarely happen in an instant but if you take a step each and every day and stick with your decision then it will happen and the results will create happiness in your world.

This has honestly added to me as a person so my gratitude goes out to Paul. He's likely inspired lots of people with that post and I'm pleased that one of them was me. Stay focused everyone and of course stay happy.

Love always from this wonderful corner of Devon

Sean

Living for today

06/12/2011 17:31:00

Hi Everyone,

Well well well what a wonderful day yesterday was, fun kids party in the morning (carnage!) and occombe beer festival from 2pm till whatever time it was a nice lady called Jane taxied us all back to the waiting tent (also pretty well carnage). Fantastic time, and plenty of great ale/cider, had by me and the gorgeous lady wife having fun with our best friends. Today has been pretty great too, even though it's been pouring down, hanging at my mums and having a stonking roast dinner.

I've been pretty well obsessed lately with getting work sorted and I've forgotten a little bit that I'm a flesh and blood guy who needs to live his WHOLE life. I'm as guilty as everyone for not living life sometimes. It is absolutely fantastic though if you live your life one day at a time. Forget about yesterdays mistakes and tomorrows problems because you are in today and today alone. I really want everyone to start smiling more. Happiness and contentment is the future guys. Its hard, I know it is but you can only give your best right now, just for today. If you forget about any slip ups of yesterday and give your best right this second then you are on the right track.

Thats all from me, I'm still sleepy tired from yesterday and lunch so its nappy nap time and I'll love you all again soon. Keep smiling and being good to each other.

Love to you all from my wonderful corner of Devon

Sean

You have control

05/30/2011 09:25:00

Hi All,

I'm happy today, really happy, really deep down happy happy. Why? Not sure, I think it's probably got to do with the fact that I've made some decisions and started taking some actions to help to move my life in the direction I want it to go. Yesterday morning I opened a book and asked for any message, the first words I read were 'Action is the key to your success', pretty clear message eh?? So I listened and took a couple of actions yesterday that I'm hoping shape my future.

It really is astonishing when you realise that your future is really in your hands. Its not in your boss's hands, your partners hands, your mums hands (sorry mum), you are in control of how you think, how you act and ultimately how happy you become. Do yourself a favour and today take one action that you really want to take that will make you feel great. It can be anything, big or small. The longest journeys start with one step, make today the first step you take on your jouney to happiness.

Sorry for the short post but I've got to go now, Milly wants me to fix ladders on her fairy castle.

Love forever from my little corner of Devon

Sean

My Morning

05/26/2011 16:46:00

Hi Everybody

It's been a while since the last post as I've been off on my hols with my lovely wife and daughter, fantastic time had by all and I'm recharged and ready to go.

I want to share my morning with you if you'll allow. It was pretty rubbish, woke up aching from squash yesterday, wind and rain on the cycle to work didn't ease aching muscles and work full of problems and dramas. Not a terrible day against some others folks I'm sure but not in my top ten. What I didn't do was get down at any time at all. I got out of bed and had breakfast with my ladies, cycled hard into work knowing I'll get the benefit and then dealt with any and all problems happily. I put some relaxing music on and kept in the forefront of my mind that I was capable of coping with all of this and much more.

It was a really nice way to think and I'd recomend it to everyone. I not only got through the morning but I came through with a great smile on my face. Just keep smiling and keep being really nice to each other, it's fantastic to be happy and nice. If we all did it the world would be easy and lovely. Listen to music you like, dance in the street, sing out loud, smile at a stranger, help an old lady off the bus, say hello to a neighbour, be yourself and be happy.

Love once again from my little corner of Devon

Sean

Gratitude

05/13/2011 00:10:00

Hi all you lovely folks,

Well it was tough but I made it, I'm officially on holiday for ten days! Will be heading off to Cornwall tomorrow, I know it's not far from Devon but why go further when such beauty exists around me already. A full week away with my two beautiful girls, I truly can't wait.

Anyway todays post is going to be a very simple one. It's about being grateful. I've had a tough week with work and such like, and it's very easy to get bogged down when life is like this. What I needed to do, and have spent tonight doing, is simply going over in my mind the things in my life that I am truly grateful for. Not just the material things we can touch and own, everything. Below is a little list. Have a look and add your own in the comments.

When we are grateful in our heart for things we realise just how lucky we are. As I said it's been a hard week at work but when I started going through my little list of gratitude I came to understand just how lucky I am to have all this to be grateful for. Focusing on these things will keep us from worrying about any other problems. Just a short post today, got to get to bed so I can enjoy myself tomorrow.

Love to each of you from my windy corner of Devon

Sean

Some of the things I'm grateful for (only some!)

My wonderful family - All of them!

My mind

My health

Music - Especially Garron Frith right now

Anyone who reads my thoughts here

My continued employment in a great job

SUNSHINE!

Unexpected smiles

Love given

The opportunity to experience (Life I guess)

Cadbury

So many more things, You got any? x

You

05/08/2011 13:55:00

Hi All,

Well what an eventful couple of weeks eh? What with royal weddings, dead terrorists and all the fun and games that goes with election time we've had a bit of a media bombardment! I think its now time to think about ourselves a little bit. We've been asked to care to much about other folk like the happy couple and 'poor old Nick Clegg', we may have taken our eyes off how WE are doing.

I think one of the most important things we can do as people is to truly truly truly love ourselves. You have to love yourself for the person you are. You aren't perfect, I know you're not. Little secret here, neither am I, don't tell anyone though. What is perfection though? It actually doesn't exist in reality, only in fantasy and the media, they can be interchanged by the way. We should be recognising the fact that the person we stare at in the mirror is a fantastic person, a truly fabulous human being. If you have real love for yourself then you will start to radiate that love out to everyone else. They'll get that feeling of happiness and love from you and start to radiate it themselves, you can make others feel great by loving yourself, amazing eh?

I know there will be a few sceptics out there who won't buy into this, that doesn't matter, they don't matter. That isn't the harsh thing it sounds like, it's simply accepting that you can't alter any other persons perceptions of things, only your own. If YOU truly believe in YOU then what anyone else thinks doesn't count in the slightest. The energy and good feeling you get from feeling good about you will massively outweigh the validation from anyone else. We don't need validation and trust me this is hard to accept. I've been a massive validation seeker, bowing to peer pressure in my life. It's no way to live a life though and I've never been happier than right now.

Happiness that comes from this way of thinking is true lasting happiness, it won't go away. We will start to stress less about our outward appearance and what peoples opinions are of us and relax in our own skin. Happy times will follow folks.

I'll sign off now and let you go look in the mirror and smile! Have a great time until I post again.

Love to everyone from my little corner of Devon

Sean

Accept your Anger

05/04/2011 16:31:00

Hi again everyone.

Thanks to anyone and everyone who read my last blog, far far more than I was ever expecting. Just a couple of comments would make this boy smile even more, as long as they're nice!

My thoughts today are leaning towards anger. Don't worry this isn't going to be the rantings of a crazy cross man. I get angry, more than I should for a hippie in training, and I'm sure that you get angry too. What I've come to understand that anger isn't really a bad emotion. The fact that we are able to express ourselves emotionally a fantastic gift and anger is a part of that. The dangers of anger are holding onto it, this is a very destructive thing to do. If we get angry, then spend the next 24 hours stressing over it, 'why did they do that', 'how could that situation happen' or 'I hate them', then we lose, no question.

What we need to be able to do is when we are angry accept it. Accept that, whatever the situation is, we have become angry. That we are in the act of being an angry little goblin. This in itself will help to release the pressure valve of our emotions. If you stop letting the anger be in control of you in this way then it will dissipate very quickly leaving you to deal with whatever the situation is in a much more rational frame of mind. I'm sure you're reading this thinking it can't possibly be that easy but I promise you it is, it just takes practise and discipline of your mind to realise you're in that state and then to accept it without judgment. This is very important, you have to accept it without judgment, without getting cross at yourself for getting cross. Then anger will not fester, will not turn to bitterness over time and will not control your happiness.

If we can all try to become in control of our anger like this then we can life a much happier and peaceful life, sounds daft I know but it makes some sense. I don't want to miss out on any of lifes emotive states, they are all magnificent and make us the unbelievable race of humans that we are. What we aren't always very good at is keeping the emotions from leading to behaviour patterns, turning us into angry, bitter and twisted up people full of tension and resentment.

I spent three years hating a person for something they did to me. Did she know or care, probably not, did it twist me up every time I thought of it, your dead right it did. What I've been able to do very recently is to accept that I'm angry at this person and the situation and as a result it's dissipated and left me free to forget it. Fantastic way to live eh? I'm now free from hate and the stress this causes my own body. Leaves more of me to love.

As I've said before, any little thing we can do to make this a happier life for us and all the people we come into contact with the better. If all of us let go of some tension and stress then we'd live and love much more freely. I'll try to find a lighter topic for my next post I promise, maybe something about flowers or puppies or something.

Love as always from my little corner of Devon

Sean

Happiness

05/02/2011 10:14:00

Hi All, This is my 1st blog where I'm hopefully going to say something interesting, thats for you to decide though. The reason I set up this blog was I felt I had a great deal to say on the way the world works currently and I didn't really have an outlet. Facebook updates are great but you only get just over 400 characters and I do tend to waffle on a bit!!

Happiness is the title and happiness we'll create. One thing that stops me, and I'm sure you, being happy is the constant urge to be as 'good' as someone else, or to have the thing everyone has. It's so built in to who we are now that 99.9% of the time we don't even realise we're doing it and how damaged we're becoming because of it. Example, Body image, Who said that wafer thin girls and super rippled men are who we all should be, I personally get dissatisfied when I slip out of fitness because I look around at blokes with bigger muscles with envious eyes. Not their issue, mine. Another Example, New Stuff, We have to have the newest, shiniest, prettiest thing out, be it a phone/car/computer/MP3 player/bike/clothes/jewelry/make up/the list is endless. Why? Because we are judged if we don't. Who judges us? Friends? They're not really friends if they do. Society? Society is created by us. I'll tell you who judges us more than anyone else, OURSELVES. If we can accept in ourselves that we don't need these things to feel good about us, the capability for feeling good really is with us, then we'll instantly feel better about ourselves.

It truly saddens me to see girls covered in make up because it makes them feel better about themselves, Why? They should feel fantastic about themselves anyway because they are them! It saddens me to see a parent put under massive pressures at birthday and christmas to buy the kids the newest most expensive items out, it cripples families and leads to more more more at the next event and it shouldn't. If we all accepted the kids don't need said shiny things then all of a sudden we'll have children back again! Wanting to play with basic stuff and not computer games and the like, interacting, not through a blue tooth headset, but face to face. It's us telling them that they should have this stuff by giving it to them. I used to get a can of coke on my birthday and I was grateful (possible exaggeration here, sorry mum!).

My point is that me, you and everyone you know are jointly responsible for whats happening around us, so what are we going to do folks? Thats easy, from this moment forward I pledge to you that I'm going to be grateful for what I have, happy with who I am right now and cut envy out of my life completely. Can you pledge the same, It will make a difference I promise but you have to stay strong with it.

I'm not saying that we're never going to HAVE better things or new stuff, what I'm saying to you is that its the desire and envious attitude that make us feel bad. If we concentrate our energy on being grateful and happy then the world around us will seem a fantastic place and we'll attract people and things we need to us without the bad feeling. We can then pass this happiness on to others and more important than anything else our own children will follow in our footsteps and lead a grateful and happy life. Who doesn't want that as a parent eh?

I'll leave the ramblings there for today, hope you stayed with it to the end and can help me make our own bit of the world happier.

Love to you all from my corner of Devon

Sean

It Starts

05/01/2011 15:27:00

Well hello everyone and welcome to my 1st ever blog. I thought it could be time I joined in with this internet thingy properly, even happy hippie Reiki masters have too these days. This one will be short and sweet as my little girl is after my attentions. I want everyone that comes onto this site to know that my aim is to make this world a happier place, day by day, hour by hour, person by person, we can all do it. Little things will make a big difference to getting towards a happy time for all. Anything that anyone wants to write will be welcomed as long as it makes the website a happier place than when you arrived. I'll try to be a good regular blogger. I've got a lot to say at the moment so check back often and contribute any thoughts you have. Love to you all from my little corner of Devon. x